段貞夙  老師 (Susan)    

 
Why  個案心得及老師解析
 

* New! 焦慮與抗拒成為一個照顧他人的角色 2018.11
Being Anxious and Resisting to Become the Role of Taking Care of Others
* 莫名的潔癖恐慌 2018.4
Inexplicable Panic of Fearing to Be Dirty 
* 憂鬱症 2018.1
Depression 
* 童年匱乏愛,導致偏差的愛情及人生方式  2017.7
* 焦慮沮喪 2017.7
* 恐慌症  2017.1
* 煩惱於教養孩子及創業工作
* 內在能量依賴沒長大,導致的情感與人際痛苦
* 恐懼、不敢表達、選擇及承擔---修正負面模式習氣 
* 工作及人生茫然無方向
* 憂鬱症,缺乏動力,易怒
* 情感挫敗不斷重覆
* 人際恐懼、自我封閉
* 既逃避與競爭的矛盾性格
* 暴食及人際上的不開心
* 憂鬱症,人際退縮
* 身心症狀、心悸、恐慌症
* 婆媳夫妻親子關係緊張與憤怒
* 缺乏自信,不敢承擔,甲狀腺機能亢進
* 習於逃避,婚姻不順遂
* 暴食與購物狂之成癮

 
 

 *莫名的潔癖恐慌 Inexplicable Panic of Fearing to Be Dirty

 終於可以好好走在路上了
I  finally can  walk on my  way at  ease

Fancy

莫名的潔癖、恐慌,多年來一直纏繞我,那種如影隨形的感覺,不知道甚麼時候又會讓我說不上來的害怕,想躲起來,整個人好像都不能好好的,我走在路上很緊張,很怕看到垃圾桶,或是地上一灘水,或是一些裝過食物的塑膠袋,我害怕搭捷運公車時,感覺旁邊的人好像髒髒的,甚至不喜歡有人碰到我的鞋子包包衣服,我好像整個人消失了會比較好。很痛苦,一直到有朋友傳來了歐蘭朵的網站,我想要救救我自己,所以我跟段老師預約了。

 For many years, I have suffered from inexplicable mysophobia (fearing of being dirty) and panic. The fear followed me like the never-departing shadow, I just couldn’t relax and wanted to hide myself. When I walked on the road, I was very nervous and afraid of seeing garbage cans, the pool of water on the ground, or some plastic bags which had been used to put food in. When I took the MRT and bus, I was also afraid because of feeling that the people beside me weren’t clean. I even didn’t like my shoes, bags and clothes to be touched by others. And I even thought that I may feel better if I could disappear. I was in so much pain until a friend sent me the website of Orlando, for the sake of saving myself, I made an appointment with the Teacher Duan.  

第一次見到段老師會談時,老師很認真仔細地問了我從童年以來的很多事情,我從來沒想過我這些像是強迫症的潔癖,竟然跟童年或是成長經驗有關,但是我願意相信段老師。
When I first met and conversed with the Teacher Duan, she asked me about many things of my childhood very carefully. I had never thought that the fear of being dirty which was like obsessive-compulsive disorder had something to do with my childhood and growing experience. But I was willing to believe the Teacher Duan. 


之後三次老師帶我做潛意識處理,在回溯裡,原來小時候的我,很孤單也很緊張,戰戰兢兢自己有沒有做錯甚麼事,又要惹得爸爸大罵,像是吃水果把水果掉到地上、寫國語作業哪個字不好看,爸爸不斷要我擦掉重寫,甚至氣到撕我本子。我心裡常常生氣,因為我總覺得好像永遠在家裡都比不上姐姐,姐姐功課好、長得漂亮,但在回溯中,才發現其實爸媽也沒真的比較我們,我自己的不開心、計較、臭臉,當然只會換來家人也不太理我吧。
In the later three times, the Teacher led me to proceed with the subconscious consultation, in the backtrack, it turned out that when I was a child, I was so lonely and nervous. I was always cautious and frightened of doing something wrong which would let my father bawl me out such as dropping fruit on the ground when eating. And when there was ugly handwriting (even a word) in my Chinese assignment, he would make me erase and rewrite it again and again, and then he would even fly into a rage and tore up my workbook. I was always angry because it seemed that at home I was not as good as my sister who was excellent at studying and beautiful. However, in the backtrack, I found that my parents didn’t compare us as what I thought. In the other hand, I was always unhappy, petty-minded and wore a long face, no wonder my family didn’t like to be with me.   


做到回溯小時候在學校的經驗,一步步看下去,也才明白原來被排擠、冷落,也跟自己的沒自信有關,然後惡性循環。這些看似毫不相干的事情,在潛意識的探索處理中,老師帶領我看到了它們彼此之間的關聯,我內心的不安匱乏,對自己的不信任感,覺得自己很不好,從童年就開始了,然後它一直貫穿在我整個生命裡,就像老師說的,其實我的潔癖強迫症,恐懼我碰到髒東西、恐懼我會變髒,只是我這些對自己沒自信的不安,來到極致後的展現,它只是一種結果。

While doing the subconscious backtrack of my school experience, it was discovered that I was excluded and neglected, it was related to the reason that I lacked of self-confidence, and then the thing went in a vicious circle. These things were seemingly irrelevant, but with the Teacher’s guidance in the exploration and consultation of subconsciousness, I finally realized their inner association. Feeling uneasy and insecure about myself started when I was a child, and then it penetrated through my whole life. Just like the Teacher said, in fact, the obsessive-compulsive disorder of fearing to touch dirty things and being afraid that I will get dirty was just the ultimate reflection of my unease which was from lacking of confidence.   


在老師的幾次潛意識處理引導下,光是處理了童年、成長過程的那些不開心,奇妙地,我就開始釋放了痛苦,也領悟到自己存在的價值以及美好,心理的不安逐漸鬆開了,每一次離開諮詢室,都像充飽了電力,回到生活裡再看這個世界變得不一樣了,當然這個世界沒有變,垃圾桶還在公車站牌旁,路上還是有水,但是我可以好好走在路上,這是在做了第三次處理後,有天,當我下班走在路上,很享受街景時,我才突然意識到,我竟然沒有再去注意甚麼垃圾桶之類的了,啊,我終於可以好好走路了。但令我意外的收穫是,我與家人、同事之間,也變得輕鬆,即使不說話,也可以好好待著,不用一直刻意緊張找話題。真的就像老師說的,當我能修復我自己之後,我就能跟這個世界好好相處了。謝謝段老師你讓我能開始自在地活著。

 By following the Teacher’s guidance during several subconscious consultations, I started to release the pain and realized the value and beauty of my existence after dealing with the unhappiness in my childhood and the process of growth.  The restlessness in my mind gradually be loosened. Every time when I left the consultation room, I felt that my batteries were recharged, and then I came back to life, I saw a different world, of course the world didn’t change, the trash cans were still beside the bus stop, and there were still pools of water on the ground, but I could walk on the road at ease. After the third consultation, one day, when I walked on the road and was enjoying the streetscape, I suddenly found that I didn’t even pay attention to those things like the trash cans, ah, I finally could walk at ease. But what surprised me more was that I felt relaxed between my family and colleagues. Even if I didn’t talk, I still could stay calm alone instead of finding topics deliberately and nervously. It’s really like the Teacher said, when I can repair myself, I can get along with the world peacefully. Thank the Teacher Duan for enabling me to start to live freely. 

 

段老師的話(Teacher Duan's Words)

Fancy 一進來,我已經感受到緊張焦慮的能量氛圍,我帶著她先從她之所以來找我的困境談起---潔癖恐慌。其實這類的朋友,活得很辛苦,因為她們被生活裡可能隨時出現的敵人---垃圾桶、地上一灘水、角落的某個垃圾袋,包圍進攻。草木皆兵,幾乎可以這樣形容吧。但這樣只是靠迴避、小心,並沒法解決問題,只會帶來為了要處處迴避而生起的更加緊張。事實上,這類恐懼「外在世界的髒」的個案朋友,在我的潛意識處理經驗裡,其內心深處都有著覺得「自己很不好」的焦慮。所以在處理這類問題時,我一定還是會先探索個案成長經驗裡的內在脆弱、自責、恐懼、自我詆毀,然後予以療癒,當內在心靈療癒、強壯了,就彷彿身體有了本具的免疫力,就自然可以和平地跟外在世界相處,當然對Fancy 來說,就可以自在地好好走在路上,享受街景,而與周遭人際的相處,也如複製一般,自然地可以自在愉悅地發展。

總之,我們對外在世界的感受與回應,其實只是我們內在世界的反射!

When Fancy came in, I already felt the nervous and anxious atmosphere of energy. I led her first to talk about the plight which was why she came to me---panic of fearing to be dirty. Actually, this kind of people live a hard life because they are surrounded by enemies that may appear at any time in their lives---garbage cans, a pool of water on the ground, a certain garbage bag in the corner. “Every bush and tree looks like an enemy”, it almost can be described like this. But relying on such evasion and carefulness can’t solve the problem but only leads to more tension because they have to dodge everywhere.

Actually, such kind of people of fearing “the dirty of the outer world”, in my experience of subconsciousness consultation, they have anxiousness of feeling “I am very bad” in the bottom of their minds. Therefore, while dealing with such problems, I must still explore the person’s inner fragility, self-condemnation, fear and self-rejection in his/her growing experience at first, and then heal them. When the inner mind recovers and becomes strong, it will be like that the body takes back the immunity which the body originally has; naturally, the person can get along with the outer world peacefully. To Fancy, she finally can walk on her way at ease and enjoy the street scenes. And as copying of pattern above, naturally, the interpersonal relationship between her and others can be developed comfortably and happily.         

In short, our feelings and responses to the outer world are actually the reflections of our inner world!       

 

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