段貞夙  老師 (Susan)    

 
Think 聞思札記
 

* New!「善待」童年 
Be Kind to Childhood 2018.10
* New!歐蘭朵FB粉絲專頁開張囉!
Orland FB Fan Page was created!  2018.07
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Wish there is no regret 
2018.07
* 宇宙之愛---能量的共振
The love of universe---The energy resonance 
2018.4
* 南臺灣的一天 2017.7
The day in the southern Taiwan
* 找出潛意識裡的 Bug  2017.7
Finding out the bug in the sub-consciousness
* 一直拍照、走路發呆或頑皮的慢遊    2017. 2
                   Taking pictures, walking, dazing  or naughty   in  tour

* 森林之旅  2017.2
    Forest, I am coming! 
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*  春天午後河濱2016.4
*  上<史記>第一堂課後的隨想2016.3
*  利他之行 2016.2
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* 回到自由的靈魂2015.7.14
* 河的前世今生2015.7.14
* 靜止中的無限2015.7.15
* 與大自然共存2015.7.15
* 生活就像一粒粒葡萄(Life Impression : Life as a bunch of grapes)
* 幻覺中的奮力---電影"啟動原始碼" "全面啟動"
* 印度光影拼圖---電影"貧民百萬富翁"
* 動物書1---<重逢在世界的盡頭>
* 動物書2---<永遠的信天翁>
* 重返大海之謎--- "水中蛟龍"展覽
* 藝術界裡的佛洛伊德---安迪沃荷作品展

 
 

 New!「善待」童年  Be Kind to Childhood 

童年,這個詞一提到,好像多有這樣的刻板印象,童年彷彿代表著:歡樂、無憂無慮、天真、充滿了疼愛。

Childhood”, when the word is mentioned, there may be many stereotypes, childhood seems to represent: joy, carefreeness, innocence, and full of love.

 

但是我做了十來年的潛意識諮詢工作,我聽過看過的童年,雖僅少數是真的悲慘,但多數人們的童年,充滿:不被了解的孤單、沮喪、想要被看見或讚美的渴望與焦慮、被不經意忽略的失落、或被拿來比較而產生的自卑。即使外在看來,家庭仍是和樂正常,沒太大問題,甚至個案本人在一開始談話回憶中,往往不覺得自己的童年有甚麼不愉快。

However, I have done subconsciousness consultation for more than ten years, people's childhood which I have heard and seen, although only a few are really miserable, most people’s childhood is filled with: lonely and depressed for not being recognized, desiring to and worrying not be seen or praised, feeling down from mindlessly ignore, or the inferiority from been compared with others. Even in external appearance, their families are happy and there is not much problem, even the case himself/herself, at the beginning of conversation and recall, often doesn’t feel any unpleasant in childhood.

 

然而當人格裡烙印下上述這些刻痕,一次又一次的累積,就變成一種模式了,我常比喻就像電腦的開機方程式,走到哪裡,任何時候,只要一開,都會那樣地啟動。

But when the personality was branded with marks above, be accumulated again and again, then it becomes a pattern. I always metaphor that it is like boot loader, anywhere, anytime, as long as the computer is turned on, it will start up like that.

 

例如缺乏自信、追求外在表現證明、在乎他人評價、抗壓性低、好勝心強、過度敏感於關係裡的位置高低、人際關係難以進入親近狀態等等。

For example, lack of confidence, pursuing external performance and recognition, caring about other people’s evaluations, low stress resistance, intense competitiveness, excessively sensitive to the position of the relationship, difficulty of getting into close interpersonal relationships, and etc.

 

這些模式,在成長過程,乃至成年之後只要遇到類似情境、關係、事物,便不自覺地繼續被挑動、複製、再次刻痕、模式更加強化,形成一種惡性循環。

These patterns, in the process of growth, even adulthood, as long as one encounters similar situations, relationships and things,the patterns will consistently and unconsciously be provoked, copied once again, and they are further strengthened, then it gets trapped in a vicious circle.

 

因此,在個案問題處理的過程裡,我一定從「童年」開始做起,因為,那裏是此生舞台、一切的起始點、模式的源頭。

Therefore, in the process of dealing the cases’ problems, I must start from "Childhood",

because it is the starting point of everything on the stages of life and the source of the patterns.

 

童年,影響至鉅,因此,應該要善待「童年」。

Childhood, has the most powerful influence, therefore, we should be kind to "Childhood."

 

讀者可能會質問:我的童年早都過了,還能怎麼善待?

Readers may ask: my childhood has passed, then how can I be kind to?

 

而我所謂的「善待」,是說,我們都應該找機會好好回溯並療癒我們的童年;因為童年看似已去,但留下的能量模式一直仍在每個人的現在進行式中。重整丶療癒童年能量,是身心靈健康的基礎。

"Being kind" I said, is about we all should look for opportunities to regress and heal our childhood; because the childhood seems to have gone, but the energy patterns left, are still in everyone’s current progression. Reconstructing and healing the childhood energy are the foundation of body and mind health.

 

再者,如果我們手上正掌握著別人的童年,請要保持覺知,智慧地善待之。但弔詭的地方也正在於,一個自己童年能量未療癒的人,又如何為下一代帶來愉快的童年呢⋯⋯

Furthermore, if we are holding the childhood of others, please be aware, and be kind to others' wisely. But the paradox is exactly at, when a person whose own childhood energy has not been healed, how can he/she bring a happy childhood to the next generation……

 

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